Follow-up from my Response to WWC Overview & Scrutiny Review

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I’m told that tomorrow, Worcester News are publishing an Article relating to my original review on the Overview and Scrutiny Panel that i previously posted (Here) – The comments made to the Paper were made a while ago now, in a typically un-timley manner, since I that time i have been fortunate to gain some more information…In light of this, i’m adding my follow-up that i wrote after a good discussion about the intentions behind the WCC Outcomes. I’ll go further in to it, and i really hope to work with the Worc’s Health and Care Trust directly to smooth out some of these issues, however, in the meantime, here are my (as yet unedited) ramblings.

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On Friday I was lucky enough to meet with the Children’s Clinical Services Manager, who is the lead of the Umbrella Pathway, I say lucky as it was nice to be able to get a meeting with someone who has influence over the decisions that impact on us every day within Worcestershire. It shouldn’t be down to luck, however, my professional position blurred things slightly and I think, initially, it felt to my colleague as more of an ambush. That was of course not my intention at all, and perhaps due to my own formal manner (an ASD trait of mine), my contact came across as one thing, rather than another. However, ambush or not, the intent was true and as a Parent who is impacted by decisions made and/or signed off by the LD Lead for Children’s Services, it was an opportunity that I grabbed fully.

The one big issue that came out of the meeting is that of funding, of course it’s funding.

The CCG are telling the Trust what they need to do and where to make savings. This is fine, as the CCG hold the pot of money, but how much push-back is given when this decision is not the best one for the Trust or it’s Service Users? If the Trust go along blindly without due consideration for those they serve in a medical and care capacity, then how can we parents know that the children are safe in their hands? When something comes down to funding, corners are eventually cut. In this case, the WCC have put a case forward in their Overview and Scrutiny Panel Report that highlights to me, where these cuts are being put in, without an idea of the future and ongoing cost implications of trying to change the process for the worse here, at this early stage of accessing an assessment.

I’d like to see the figures, it seems sensible that the figures to back up the changes to an existing process are shared to enable transparency.

The figures I’m interested in is that of the existing ‘pot of money’ and how it is divvied up along the ‘pathway’. I was interested to learn and surprised actually, that there is no one pot of money for the umbrella pathway. It is not held specifically for the Autism Process in either the Trust Mental Health Services, or Learning Disability services. It is allocated to each individual team that has involvement and inputs in to the assessment process. This doesn’t make any sense to me, and it is information that needs exploring further.

In terms of finances and value for money, it also seems sensible that we get an overview of the total cost of a child going through the current pathway, who is paid what, when?

I would personally like to see this, so I can assess whether the current pathway is good value for money, and from a parent’s perspective, pull out the unnecessary elements of the pathway and make way for the parts that need more emphasis placing on them.

It is my opinion, and until I have actual costs I can only speculate, that the current process of following the NHS Pathway is far more ineffective and less financially viable than a parent who manages to go down the Private Assessment route. As a ballpark figure, a Private Assessment might cost a parent £2000 – £3000 to obtain a thorough assessment by an Expert Paediatrician, Clinical Psychologist and/or Speech and Language Therapist. These are experts in their field as many have reached a senior level in the NHS and left the public sector to pursue Private Practice and provide a more focussed Neurodevelopmental service. In that Assessment, everything that is considered over months and years by the NHS pathway, is also considered but in a more appropriate setting, nothing is left out, there are no short cuts in the Assessment process Private or Public. And yet, the time taken is better for the family, it is accurate as carried out by Neurodevelopmental specialists and the relevant issues are measured accordingly, allowing the Specialists to join the dots and lot sooner and make a more accurate opinion, unlike the current fragmented NHS process carried out by ‘jack and Jill’s of all trades’ in terms of Children’s health where problems occur in several professional holding subjective opinions and the facts get lost amongst the ‘dot to dot’. And how much does each one of these appointments cost to carry out (time, admin, paperwork, professional, room hire, rates etc)? I wonder if the whole process was totted up, how much would that be? And then add in the extra pressures that can arise from not having an assessment at all or making incorrect allegations of parenting issues etc, then these costs (again room hire, professionals time, cost of running a triple p course, contacting social services, implementing safeguarding staff?) and then consider the cost absorbed by schools and nurseries (staff, meetings, time out of classroom) and EHCP tribunals and all that goes in to these, and then there is picking up the tab on mental health treatment for those suffering additional anxiety, depression, PTSD and medicating these symptoms? Would all of this really be cheaper than listening and believing the parents with regards to the severity of the ASD symptoms; cheaper than the voice of a second opinion by an expert Specialist, and offering the best diagnostic assessment possible in the very first place?

Secondly, I feel it is important to note that I felt more comforted by the information I gained about the report that I thought I would. Something that is apparent is the language in the report and that the emphasis of the report is based on parenting. According to the Service Lead, the push for support is coming from the Schools and not the parents; this surprised me, as it isn’t mentioned.

Through all of the interventions and graduated responses mentioned in the report, they do not focus on the additional support in schools, it does not focus on the Teachers pushing for additional funding to sustain the classroom support that is required when a child has a (potential) Autism condition, and it does focus on Parenting issues, behaviour difficulties, and an array of other diagnostic labels, than actually once joined together could quite easily be a case of ASD PDA.

If the focus is not on a diagnosis, or a label, then why go ahead and look for other labels – as if the Autism one is off-limits?

My concerns remain, as the new focus on alleviating the front door pressure of a struggling system is not going to resolve the fact that the children still need an expert assessment – of which I am not convinced they get through the current pathway. The lack of understanding about accessing support is rife, and the wider public and professionals need to understand the consequences of NOT diagnosing an Autism Condition. The fall-out is emotional to family, and ultimately financial to the Public services, when incorrect diagnoses are made or unmade, and the families end up fighting the system through courts, be it child protection cases, Education Tribunals, follow-up health care for traumatised youngsters and families who have been impacted negatively by their experiences of the route that took them to the courts in the first place.

We know that the Local Authority have limited budgets, yet the schools are asking for help which isn’t being implemented and this concern isn’t being shared amongst parents. The money spent by the Local Authority fighting back at Parents, could be better spent in giving that support required. And how do we know someone needs support? We assess, diagnose and believe parents.

In PMQs on Weds 22nd Feb, Theresa May PM answered a question surrounding Learning Disabilities and she said that the Government “will be introducing Education, Health and Care Plans”, and my question to her is, why “introducing” and not acknowledge that they actually ALREADY exist and are like fairy dust to obtain? And if the Government are taking an active role in pushing the EHCPs, how do they expect to provide them to children who have not had an assessment?

This topic of ‘assessment versus diagnosis versus need’ is too vague for parents, teachers and children who are growing to adults as we speak.

If the schools need support, they should get it, if the parents need support they should get it, early intervention is key – the Trust gets that right at least, however, their perception of what early intervention is, what form it takes, and who can access it, is drastically off the mark.

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Overview & Scrutiny Committee: Autism Assessments in Worcestershire

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Response to: Worcestershire County Council’s Overview and Scrutiny Committee on Autism.

Scrutin Committee 28.2.18 Assessment of Children and Young People who may have Autism

With reference to the Review document attached, I appreciate that there are more referrals for ASD coming to light than ever before, and I, more than most, can be cynical about the extent of suspected ASD being banded around. I admit that I am protective of the ‘label’ that gets my 5 year old son his support and, as a late diagnosed adult; I hold my hands up to being blunt in regards to ASD and what that truly means especially when it coexists with another medical or learning disability.

The report suggests various reasons for increased referral rates, the first being increased awareness. This is a good thing, without a doubt – it means people can start understanding the variety of Autism Conditions and know what to look out for in their own children. This should not in any way be acted upon negatively, which unfortunately Worcestershire County Council does in their Overview and Scrutiny Committee outcome on ASD.

Another reason for increased referrals, apparently there is  “anecdotal evidence that some people may incorrectly believe it acts as an automatic ‘gateway’ to support and services” How can they reference subjective opinion as evidence without quantifying it?

The problem here is when a parent asks for help with their ASD child, they think that there must be some support and help available, but in actual fact, there is not and this is down to the Local Authority. Parents are at their whit’s end fighting everyone to get them to understand and they, as I did, naively think that someone can help, when the truth is, parents are on their own. This ‘gateway’ to support is a mystical one that does not exist, and services that are impossible to access with a child who has a High Functioning Autism Condition

I’m concerned about the content of the report, but the recommendations made actually frighten me. WCC state they will look for alternative reasons, and to use approaches and interventions for ASD, and this is a worry, as it appears that no lessons have been learnt since the experience we had, and instead the Authorities have taken a massive step backwards for all Invisible Disabilities, particularly High-Functioning ones including Autism.

The long term impact on undiagnosed children and adults is obvious to those of us that live with the condition, and although I feel very sad that this outcome will leave more high functioning autistic people at risk of other medical conditions as a result, such as increased anxiety and depression, the impact on their ‘apparent’ ability to cope in education and the fall-out of them not fulfilling their potential in to adulthood which will ultimately have its own cost implications to the NHS and Local Authorities, it is not this that concerns me most.

I’m massively worried about the impact of the decision to start looking to ‘courses’ as a resolution for the symptoms, as this will not work. They do not offer the support needed and they do not fix ASD symptoms, in fact in a case of Pathological Demand Avoidance these types of ‘approaches’ can create a very unhappy and unwell child as a result.

The main recommendation from the report is based totally on weeding out the cases that will not meet their own criteria and looking to place the blame at any door, other than that of the Autism Pathway. What about the cases who have genuine High Functioning, invisible disability that can only be extracted by an Expert Professional? There is no excuse to cherry pick who gets an assessment and who does not. These are children with individual needs. In what other condition, would it ever be acceptable to not diagnose? It is absolutely unacceptable to put one child’s disability over another, simply because it is too expensive to sustain the current processes in place.

Parents face a continuing struggle with the NHS to be listened to and believed as it is, leading to increasing referrals to Social Services. Child Protection interventions begin when a parent is accused, (wrongly) as I was, of Fabrication and Inducing Illness (previous Munchausen’s by Proxy).

We hear a lot of parents talk about long waiting times for Autism Assessments, ASD Diagnoses, and the battle to gain support. My experience is that in order to even access a fair assessment, a diagnosis, the educational and emotional support that should follow for children, parents are treated like perpetrators of some abuse or worse, treated like they don’t have the knowledge or ability to pick out ‘ordinary’ and ‘unusual’ behaviours in their own children. An ask for help for an undiagnosed child leads to judgements on parenting and worse. This is how important accessing an early, correct and expert diagnosis is in terms of the support available. It is not true that the support is offered on needs of the child, because those needs are put down to other aspects of behaviour, it is true however, that the support offered is a way of teasing out parental issues, using archaic attitudes and parenting strategies which in fact makes the whole assessment process unbearable for child and family.

Review Paperwork and meeting details can be found here:

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Autism Mother urges other ASD & Disability Parents to Vote on Thursday #GE17

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I am sending out a plea to Parents of Autism and Special Educational Needs (SEND)…A plea to the Mums and Dads who think that their vote won’t count, the “why bother’, “no-one listens to us” families, the families who have been let down by the current Government and the failing system we have so far endured on behalf of our children. I appeal to the disenfranchised mothers and fathers of children with Autism and SEND who have so often been devastated by a broken system and left with a feeling that there is no change possible for us. Well, we all have a voice and it is so important to use it this Thursday.

I hope to raise awareness of the relevance and importance of making the parent voice heard in Thursday’s elections.

I’ve been considering the Main Three Party opinions and their relevance to all of our Autism & SEND families. It is apparent from the promises that are made (and they are wishful promises that we need to support and get behind) that some parties care about our families and other do not.

In terms of favourable voting for our ASD SEND families, it has to be Labour for me and normal people like me and my family. We are not rich and we rely on the system for our healthcare, our Education and we expect it to be provided at the best possible standards, we are used to our services being funded and to be able to trust Professionals with our children, and for invisible disabilities to be recognised and continually acknowledged. Only decent NHS, Social Care and Education funding will achieve this fully functional role that many children access easily, yet is made difficult for children of ASD SEND.

In terms of Party Manifestos being nothing but wish lists and empty promises, i think it is important to support the party that even acknowledges the very relevant needs of Autism and SEND families. At least if we vote for the right party, the one that makes the promises, we have someone to hold to account to fulfil their promises further down the line. If we vote for parties that don’t even have an air of understanding of our families needs, how we challenge them on it later when they have nothing to answer for, no one to answer to? I have done the leg work looking in to the manifestos, and here is how it stands…

Lib Dems. They make a brief reference to SEND in one paragraph throughout the whole of the 95 page manifesto. They state that they will “Ensure that identification and support for special educational needs and disabilities takes place as early as possible.”

Now this is a mention at least, however it does nothing to say how they will do this and how it will be funded, relying on the fact that all Healthcare Professionals and Education Settings will comply with their wishes and the Lib Dem desire to support SEND children is not sufficient engagement. Let us not forget, this all relies on whether or not an SEND has been identified in the first place, and what it takes for the children families to get to that very important point.

Conservatives, Well.

They mention the word Autism once, in a flippant and second hand manner, lumped in with Learning disabilities. Now i find this dismissive of high functioning Autism and those with other invisible conditions that do not have learning disabilities, this is dangerous territory in my opinion. Invisible disabilities are already way underfunded and the Tory statement that the two should be combined is unacceptable in my view and an indication of their long-term money saving endeavours…potentially a further reduction in services to those who are not easily diagnosed as Autistic, and with all of the cuts that the conservatives are insisting they will still make post the Election, i simply cannot see how or believe that they intend to fund the massive overhaul of services that needs to take place in healthcare and education for the Autistic and SEND communities. The NHS cuts include unfunded CAMHS, a service that the majority of children with invisible disabilities need access to. Constant cuts to to local Councils leads to inadequate children services, lack of training and massive lack understanding, causes huge problems and extra unnecessary workloads dealing with unfounded cases of Child Protection. None of this looks likely to change within the Tory manifesto promise, nor going forward after Thursday.. “We have a specific task to improve standards of care for those with learning disabilities and autism.” Again, i wonder how they will roll this out considering the lack of money and the lack of Autism awareness that this one sentence screams.

Ok, so for my money, it is Labour all the way.

To get our voices heard we firstly need to be understood..The Labour manifesto tells us straight away that they ‘get’ autism, it is in the language, the tone and the coverage it gets within the manifesto. There are many references to Autism and SEND – but aside from that, it is written with both fact and empathy. They speak of “Neurological differences”, “Neurodiversity”, “inclusivity” and “support” for children and Parents..the manifesto goes beyond simply making a brief reference to Autism & SEND for the sake of ticking a box as with the other Parties. These promises seem attainable. With more money put in to the NHS, a diagnosis will be better timed and therefore have better long term impact for all involved. This obviously avoids the massive cost implications that a no-diagnosis could potentially turn through with unrecognised system being left to fester. Early diagnosis and correct support for ASD and the whole family will not only save money, it will save families. It will save lives…just by getting it right first time.

By funding better resources a Labour party is our only hope of gaining the appropriate understanding, funding and ongoing support for the long journey that SEND is…This journey beings with a GP or Health Visitor Appointment and goes all the way through to additional Teaching Assistants in school, flexibility of thinking and up to date autism training in every sector, moving all the way through to DLA or PIP payments. An early understanding will set up our growing kids to not have a constant battle to explain themselves, or to be understood in the wider world.

In our personal situation, i feel that the NHS and Social Care were incredibly unaware of the reality and importance of gaining the right diagnosis and ‘seeing’ the disability of our son at all. Had the small and insular team been sufficiently funded, or had i had time to approach the CCG to insist on expert in ASD PDA, we could have avoided the allegations of Fabrication and Induced Illness that the ‘team’ decided to tarnish me with. Had they been better trained with up-to-date Autism advances then, perhaps my questioning their competence might not have been so challenging to them and the rampant parent blaming and inherent culture of incorrect personal judgements that ‘Professionals’ think that they can lay at the doors of our homes. We would never have had to prove our innocence of FII and pay a Specialist via Private consultation to gain our ASD PDA diagnosis. One that has now been rolled out across the three quarters of my family. An horrendous fight to save our children, my partner and I were treated like dirt by the ‘System’ and the Professionals. NOW, if we had been able to tap in to expert opinion in the early stages, listened to when we asked, and experts been funded by the CCG prior to Occupational Therapists ill-advised referral to Social Services, perhaps our story would have never occurred. As it happens, the lack of understanding in Autism families and our version of events is a far from a one off, it is a silent epidemic within the NHS and Social Care system, one that is worsening all of the time and I put this down to lack of funding, lack of knowledge and lack of empathy…something that the Labour Party and Jeremy Corbyn do in fact promote and align themselves with improving massively for ASD and SEND.

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Get our voices heard: Fundraising

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Dear all

I am on an Autism mission. I am crowdfunding for a Creative Public Engagement project. I am compiling the stories and the battles that need to be shared and desperately need to be heard by the public and by the Professionals. To do this i need a few things…fuel, coffee, printing, time and space. I need to maintain a presence, online and in person…and i need buy people tea, cake and the freedom to share their experiences of Autism & Invisible Disabilities, and the challenges it presents.

I need to continue the work i am doing and need to get the Parent Voice heard.

This project is already in existence and currently in its infancy. It’s supported with confidence by Artrix, Arts Council England and Worcestershire County Council as an offshoot of my Exhibition Accused: an Autism Mother. The idea has legs and an ability to share similar stories across many sectors and many a diverse group of families, this is a massively important part of what my work is…sharing and exposing truths and allowing the silenced, the shamed, the innocent and hurt an opportunity to have their voices heard by the wider world.

I am no self-promoter and i rarely admit i need support, and i never ask for any kind of help…until now. I am so passionate about this work and the importance of sharing our joint experiences, that i have started a Not for Profit company to make this awareness project go as far as it possibly can…it would be amazing if you could find something/anything to donate to add to the Breakfast Tree pot for Public Awareness and Engagement.

Thank you, fantastic people


If you would rather give anonymously you can do so here at my Just Giving page




Here is the link to the Artrix Exhibition Accused: an Autism Mother 


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Child Protection Meeting, one year on.

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Child Protection Meeting, one year on.

I was planning on doing some work today, once i have wrapped the rest of the presents…Santa’s Elves are too busy to wrap this many gifts…

We dropped Toddle and The Boy off at playgroup & School and came home after having the car washed at Tesco and trying out their (actually surprising good) breakfasts.

I suppose, i am stalling here, this is not what i came on to write about..

Anyway, the window cleaner has been and gone and just before he rang the bell for payment, i fell in to the wooden frame of the vintage settee we have, whilst trying to catch a falling present from the shelf above, and i bumped my knee. Now this is nothing unusual for me, or anyone..accidents happen, but to me more than most.

I am incredibly clumsy and have atrocious spacial awareness.

I fell on the floor surrounded by the massive pile of paper and toys, and broke down…half crying, half screaming in agony, half holding back laughter that was involuntary because i know how ridiculous that it is that i am crying so pathetically at my hurting knee. I am in so much of a silly mess, that Guy gets the door to the window cleaner, and i am still stuck on the floor when he returns. Very stupid. Then, i got up, with his assistance, got myself a tissue and should have been fine…but something just clicked as i saw the time on the coffee machine (yes, a clock on the coffee machine, it is a new Ninja coffee maker with a clock on it…cus we is posh ennit).

Again, i’m stalling…

So i realise that today is exactly one year since the Child Protection meeting.

It was 11:59am that i noticed the time on the clock, and it dawned on me, that this time last year i was sick, sick to my utter core that i had no idea what to expect in only a few hours time. And in that time, our lives could be changed forever.

I had this total tripe report that was filled with inaccuracies and blatant lies, and a massive misunderstanding of Autism PDA. And a massive misinterpretation of everything i had ever said or done in order to help and protect my Autistic son, and my then one year old son in turn.

I feel so fucking hurt, still today, my heart just exploded out of no where and i am regurgitating every single second from now, (the time is 12:08) to the end of that day, one year ago. At this point a year ago i was clock watching like you would never believe, I had to go to the toilet and change my underwear TWICE, yes, TWICE, because i had actually shit myself with fear, and the pain of not being in control of my life clearly followed through to a lack of control of my entire body. I was actually rather numb come to think of it. I could not believe that what was about to take place would really ever happen to genuinely honest and good people who love their children more than anything. It still seems unreal, impossible that my children could now, this very day, be in the care of strangers. My two beautiful boys, so amazing, so loved, so unimaginably incredible, so very nearly taken away from us. Very nearly removed from their loving home. And very nearly taken away from very loving, innocent parents. This is the power that the authorities have to ruin lives. As if the boys’ lives was held in the balance like that, how is it possible that their very existence was temporarily tampered with? As if people with no insight were capable of changing my children’s lives forever?…placing them in jeopardy like that, making them vulnerable and potentially, now, living away from each other, with strangers?! Merry fucking christmas indeed.

We were on Child Protection, and we now are not..However, this meltdown today is surely akin to Post Traumatic Stress? And is clearly a result of their total incompetence and and heartbreaking allegations and subsequent actions. My whole life fell apart, and it is still not mended, by any stretch of the imagine will this ever go away.

I had a silent miscarriage before i became pregnant with The Boy, it was picked up at our 12 week scan, and subsequently i had my dead foetus ‘evacuated’ from my body. Every year i remember that feeling of loss, and every day surrounding the sad event is an anniversary of it’s own kind. Yet, over time the pain has passed as i enjoy my two beautiful boys. And this Child Protection anniversary feels like that, but a million trillion times worse. And for a hell of a longer period…Our family Christmas was ruined and our 2016 crushed in the worst way possible. The NHS and Social Services were and are responsible for the ongoing pain i experience every time i think about the incidents of last year and every time i remember that my two boys could have been taken from me. Torn from their own lives. Siblings together, taken from each other.

The Authorities raped me in that process, they tore apart my entire self, and as a result, they took to my womb with a rusty wire coat hanger and scraped out the remnants of my self confidence, belief and trust i had in anyone..They potentially ripped away every part of my maternal instinct that led me to being the good mother that i was, and as it happens, still am.

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Mommy’s Christmas Book of things…Thanks for everything, NHS, CDT, Aryu, Parsuns, fuckwits

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I felt the need to publish this now…i started a Christmas book last year for recipes, crafts, cuttings, lists etc…I couldn’t face it. I had a list of veg to buy/make like Red Cabbage & Cinnamon carrots – but that’s as far as it got. My heart was breaking, my eyes were constantly sore and puffy and i was aching in my gut like nothing else i had ever experienced. Merry fucking christmas you bastard accusing waste of space cunts, you ruined my family’s Christmas…my partner and i saved it for the boys. I don’t know how we managed..but we did. For them. The boys you could have had put in to Local Authority care…Thanks for being so royally shit at your jobs. I keep reminding myself that i WAS RIGHT all along, in EVERYTHING that i did. I was right, and YOU, yes YOU..Aryu, Parsuns, Garbutt, NHS, were wrong! Damaging & wrong.



This years christmas couldnot have been worse –
I had hopes of keeping this book as an ongoing xmas to do/ memory
Traditional list of things

NO it’s been been Been Ruined
By me
Social Services –
Wankstains cannot do their jobs so blame Me.
Us. Putting us through this shit shit SHIT

To my family      Man, Boy, Toddle
I am so sorry. I wanted so much for this Christmas- we’ve tried to put on a brave face – I Love You. X
Next year will be better. I hope xxxx


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ACCUSED: An Autism Mother – the Art Exhibition

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So here it is, the exhibition is now live and official.

artrix-logo‘ACCUSED: AN AUTISM MOTHER’ at the Artrix Arts Centre February 2017.

Supported by Arts Council England and Worcestershire County Council


ACCUSED: An Autism Mother
Bernadette Louise creates a spectacle of oversized Healthcare posters emphasising the ‘invisible’ symptoms of Autism Spectrum Disorder, Pathological Demand Avoidance. In an honest response to the Authorities who accused her of Fabricating and Inducing her Son’s ASD, she uses documentary mobile phone images and direct quotes from the assessment process to highlight a desperate need for PDA Awareness. Quickly the professionals focussed on her as Mother, instead of the Child’s symptoms they were faced with. Bernadette intends to highlight the contradictions and accusations that caused the NHS to refer to Children’s Services resulting in a Child Protection
order. Through her Art and Spoken Word event Bernadette exposes the true harm caused by the Authorities to families with ‘unseen disabilities’.

Spoken word event:
An evening of poetry and spoken word including performances by those who are on and support people on the Autism Spectrum. Featuring the popular Autism Vlogger, ‘Autistic Genius’ and visceral Artist Bernadette Louise.




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Vic Derbyshire show brief mention of FII & Child Abuse in Fatigue feature

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C’mon….It is about time that they responded to one of my emails and actually decided to break the silence and help families realise that they are not alone with the horrible and INCORRECT allegations of child abuse that arise from the healthcare servcies who do not see the invisible conditions. YES that person who spoke about fatigue and ME was right (post edit: Jane Colby of Tymes Trust), if something that the health professional suggests doesn’t work, (in this case it was discussing CBT with Chronic fatigue) they automatically assume that the parent has another agenda, a disgraceful and lazy accusation of Munchausen’s by Proxy. It is tearing families apart and it is not only with Fatigue as per the feature on the show just. IT IS WITH AUTISM. AND IT HAS HAPPENED TO ME, MY PARTNER AND OUR CHILDREN! No harm was found, after a hell of a time. Yet, it was gutwrenching and unfair.. and no one has apologised for being WRONG.

Please can someone pick up this story??? Much more needs to be done urgently to lift this overwhelming shadow that the NHS and Children’s Services place on innocent and incredibly caring parents.

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ACCUSED: Autism. The Art Exhibition about PDA

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After a while of not posting, not being greatly social media sociable, i have decided to update on why and what’s been going down. I have had a temporary break from dealing with the NHS complaint and have been working on my art. This is good and bad. Having a break from the complaint doesn’t mean it has gone away or been at the back of my mind. Far from it. Not working on it has caused me more stress and made me have less focus on the things i need to do. I am constantly thinking about the way in which the complaint has been handled and what an abomination the whole situation was and is, and i NEED to fight them still. No matter how lacking in motivation i become, i still think about the things i should be doing. Trawling through all of the NHS and Social Services lies and defamation is traumatic, it is emotionally hard work and i would rather not be doing it. However, i cannot let them free of the burden they caused my family and will persist. Even if it is at the expense of my own health and wellbeing. They already did enough to scupper that anyway, so what’s a little more of a battering?

So in my break from the complaint, i have placed my energy on a project not too far removed from it and it is my art exhibition. The exhibition is about Autism Awareness, but not as you know it. It is a PDA awareness project, and a parental blame project. It is a tangible backlash and two fingers up at the NHS and the way in which they dismissed the very symptoms of PDA and blamed us parents for the issues. This is the reason for AWARENESS and it doesn’t stop at just reading a bit about PDA, it is about respecting parents enough to realise they are genuine and aware people themselves.

bl-accusedThe work is based on the ‘Invisible’ symptoms of PDA. It also highlights direct quotes lifted from the notes and information i have from the NHS…that in itself makes a hugely interesting read.

There it is.

by Bernadette Louise

The exhibition is funded. It has backing from Arts Council England and Worcestershire County Council. And it is taking place within the very geographic region that harmed us, Redditch and Bromsgrove. The Artrix Arts Centre in February 2017. It isn’t that long away, and i am finally getting to grips with the content, but i have a lot to do and a lot to organise. I also have to be a parent and a partner, so the NHS idiots can wait a little while longer while i attempt to carry on with my life.

If anyone would like to contribute to a piece of work, i am running a public facing engagement project and would love to include your experiences too. Please do contact me if you would like to know more about that or any part of the work.

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To Victoria Derbyshire Show BBC 2 Autism PDA NHS

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Wednesday 15th June 2016

Dear Victoria Derbyshire, the show.

I have been trying to write this letter to you for several weeks. It is only now that I have managed to gain enough emotional and physical motivation to compile the information and examples in one place for your team to look at, I really hope you find the time to read it to the end.

My name is ‘Bee’. I am writing on behalf of myself, my partner and our two children; Toddle is 18 months old and ‘The Boy’ who is 4 years old with a diagnosis of High Functioning Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance. I’m keen to draw your attention to the situation that my little family find ourselves. I am emailing you for two reasons;

Firstly I want to alert you of the significant injustices encountered during the Diagnostic Assessments for Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance. Parents face a continuing struggle with the NHS to be listened to and Believed, leading to increasing referrals to Social Services. Child Protection interventions begin when a parent is accused, (wrongly) as I was, of Fabrication and Inducing Illness (previous Munchausen’s by Proxy). The Child Protection ‘Plans’ that are imposed upon families with an un-diagnosed ASD child in light of allegations against parents are deplorable. It is worth highlighting that the ultimate final outcome of these cases is the REMOVAL of Children. The negative way in which the situation is dealt with needs addressing urgently in a Nationwide response, and not each battle tackled locally through the courts.

Secondly, and this is far more personal, I need help. I need to gain some support and legal advice (or action more to the point) to highlight the issues here, and to gain justice. The Authorities need to be held accountable and the staff should face some kind of repercussions, yet this is not happening. Someone needs to challenge the people, processes and policies that have caused us so much heartache as a family, and continue to have so much power with families in a similar situation. I have been following the NHS PALs procedures and in doing so, have discovered incredible ‘malpractice’ that was taking place behind our families back in relation to my sons’ ASD assessment. There seems to be barriers everywhere I turn to gain informed legal advice regarding Defamation, our Human Rights and the Equalities act, all have which I have researched and I am confident have been breached in several ways, and yet because of the cross-over nature of these issues and this being an NHS/Social Services case, no one seems to be able to draw everything together in order to help or even advise us. I’ve contacted Citizen’s Advice as well as Solicitors but I keep getting ‘Clinical Negligence’ or ‘Family Law’ both of which do not cover the extent of the malpractice.

Our Story 

In November 2015, my family were placed on a Section 47 Child Protection Order under the remit of Significant Emotional Harm. With this, we were told that if we did not comply with the Social Service Plans that they would have no problem taking it to court. This is with the intent of removing the children under the category of significant emotional harm. It seems extreme, and to outsiders would seem unlikely to occur but it is unfortunately not the case. The Protection Plans go on for years and children have been removed.

Not ours. Our Child Protection case went on for 6 months and I fought with every part of my being to disprove the allegations made in the unfounded referral. It is unheard of to come of a Child Protection Plan so quickly, this was down to my own hard work and determination, and not down to the realisation or apology of the relevant teams involved. The initial referral was made by an NHS Occupational Therapist and Community Paediatrician of a small-town Child Development Team who were assessing my son for Delayed Concentration, Sensory Processing Difficulties and Emotional Issues, amongst other things.

This letter to you is not just about our case, and not just about PDA. It is about ASD in general, classic Autism, ADHD, ADD, Global Delay, it is an overall battle with the Authorities. I have a hefty complaint with the NHS and one underway with Social Services. It is hard work, and it is draining. This is our experience.

The professionals involved in my son’s care were unable or unwilling to accept what I was telling them about our families difficulties, our son’s difficulties, they were so very extreme in certain situations and I was unable to understand how The Boys’s behaviours presented so differently at home to any assessment environment (as too did the professionals find it hard to ‘believe’). The Boy just didn’t ‘fit’ any criteria, for anything that I was aware of. He was verging on Aspergers, ADHD, but not quite. He had different symptoms and they were being hidden by his own intelligence and charisma the whole time he was under assessment. This was very frustrating because we knew something was atypical about our very little boy, and we knew he required such a lot of extra support, yet no one knew what I was on about, and neither did I…Until one day I stumbled upon a reference to PDA in a free Autism Magazine, it only said that PDA had been officially added to the Autism Spectrum…and I was compelled to google it, “PDA Autism”…There it was in black and white. STARING RIGHT AT ME, EXACTLY what my son ‘had’. I had it, I thought, I printed the paperwork off at the library at my first chance, highlighted in neon exactly the symptoms that were prevalent, and I shared it with CAMHS at our next appointment.

They assessed my son over a period of months, and they didn’t see the problems screaming out at them, PDA. They were not prepared to read the literature I gave them about PDA and they were less inclined to hear my own screams about PDA.

As it transpires, my own yells that I thought were in to the ether, were in fact, being used against me to justify their case of Fabrication.

Through many difficult months, we were defamed clear as day, in writing and in spoken word, intruded upon and had our dignity and confidence taken away. We were frightened to death that the children would be taken away from us, and every knock on the door sent me reeling. I was scared to leave The Boy at nursery as I was worried what Social Services could do in our absence. We had to put on smiles at Christmas concerts and continue baking cakes, buying presents and decorating the house for festivities, and yet the whole time we felt sick inside and at the end of our tether. We were waiting desperately for the date to arrive where we could resume normal life. I was convinced that day would never come.

The FII was disproved at the very first external assessment of my son. The Boy received a positive diagnosis of High Functioning Autism and Pathological Demand Avoidance (ASD & PDA).

I thought that would be the end of it… I was proved innocent and the NHS team were wrong. But it wasn’t as simple as that. The Social Services were like a ‘dog with a bone’ and dragged their feet for months, as in their view they had “two conflicting opinions”.

Here we were presenting them with an Expert diagnosis of The Boy, only 3 months after the NHS team had stated this: Quote CDT Meeting 4/11/15 “ All agree that The Boy does not meet the criteria for Autistic Spectrum Disorder including PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance). Presentation: Significant anxiety issues. No developmental difficulties. Mild expressive language delay and delay in attention skills.” 

Our diagnosis was obtained via Private Assessment with very well established ASD/PDA Experts that we paid for ourselves out of a desperate need to clear our names, we were both so sure that The Boy had the ASD called PDA. The NHS team that we were under were not qualified to make a non-diagnosis of ASD/PDA as they did so clearly in the child development team meeting (above). They adamantly blamed high levels of anxiety that were attributed to parents and not in the slightest bit interested that anxiety is in fact the main characteristic of a PDA child. It is important to note that the NHS non-diagnosis, was NOT NICE compliant and the NHS have since admitted so. This non-diagnosis was fuelled by their misinterpretation of facts, their misguided personal opinions and their arrogance to assume that they knew best..not once did the Team consider a second opinion or referring to a PDA specialist, even with my absolute belief that The Boy had this condition, they denied him access to appropriate care and therefore ongoing appropriate treatment. And then of course, they went to Social Services with what information they thought they had to accuse us of FII.

The Social Services report for the first Conference on 17th December, is a disgusting, discriminating accusation of FII. They have torn apart every facet of my personality to try and make it fit an FII case. The report focuses on Fabrication, and the “gain” I got from this, but the Conference focussed on the anxiety of The Boy, and that it was Inflicted on him. I am yet to see which is the most prominent issue they were following as I do not believe both can co-exist. If I were fabricating it, there is no evidence that I was “gaining” anything from this. And it is not possible to “induce/inflict” ASD on anyone. They also included our then One Year old son in the plan who they have never encountered, and who has no difficulties. We were accused with no way out. Every “Recommendation’ that was made in the ‘Plan’ was to prohibit us clearing our names, we were told that The Boy or Toddle, could not undergo any further assessments, and they worked on the basis that the NHS were right. Which they were not.

At no point did the NHS team or Social Services consider gaining that a second opinion before taking the serious steps to Child Protection proceedings even though a second opinion was recommended by another Paediatrician. At no point did the Social Services acknowledge the glaring ethical issues in the chronology and referral they took from the NHS referrer (who I had previously made a complaint about personally and professionally). They were blinded by subjective staff opinions of me and they brought in my own health and my artistic practice to emphasise the fact that there was nothing wrong with my son, they were concentrating very much on assessing my state rather than The Boy’s which is apparent in the evidence I now have. If they had been looking closer at the symptoms that The Boy displayed and aligned them with a PDA criteria, they should have quickly either recognised the ASD or gone on to refer to an expert. Which is what i would have been asking the Commissioners to fund had I not been suddenly accused of FII and had the children placed on a Section 47 Child Protection Order on the grounds of Significant Emotional Harm. 

In the process of assessing my son, the NHS team have said some very derogatory things about me and my partner. Not just that I was fabricating. It goes way beyond that. They have disclosed very personal and private details in order to substantiate their un-founded opinion of my FII and they have been openly very personal and subjective about me, my mental health, my profession as an artist/writer and my ‘social status’ in wider meetings with strangers present. They were acting as though I was guilty before I had a chance to disprove their claim. An NHS Nursery Nurse looked up my work website on the internet because she “found me interesting” and what she found she interpreted in her own way and disclosed my work as a Safeguarding issue, yet against the NHS own policy, they didn’t disclose this to me at the time – a massive 8 months before the Child Protection action was taken.

I have since gained access to a whole lot more evidence and the list of issues is extensive. There are so many errors I can not get them all down here.

I admit that this is a complex case. I have done as much work as I can, but it has gone far beyond what I am capable of dealing with now with relation to legal terms and accessing justice. I have done the leg work, but am now out of my depth.

PDA is not rare, but rarely understood, and rarely diagnosed, it is so very high functioning that the children can appear ‘normal’ and their sophisticated methods of masking make ‘seeing’ PDA hard and in turn and difficult to pin down. Remembering that ASD is in fact an invisible disability, and everything about the ASD can be variable and PDA in particular has it’s own unusual characteristics, all the medical evidence was there for the NHS team to see. They even acknowledged The Boy’s difficulties accurately to some extent, yet they chose to not attribute it to an ASD, but to accuse us of FII.

I don’t feel that the appropriate legal support is available to fight organisations on this scale. I am struggling to find an organisation with sufficient legal knowledge that understands the extent of the allegations and the vast amount of evidence I have. 

If we were a wealthy family, a person of media interest, or we had a ‘sensational’ story behind us – I feel our battle would be so much easier. We could afford to access the legal support we require to get justice, or have it offered freely, we would be listened to and our story could make a difference. As a family, I hope we can move forward from this, but we will never forget. However, my children will never be rid of this, it is on their records now, FOREVER, and it can not be eradicated. It will appear when ever there is any Authority involvement, it is even mentioned on The Boy’s new and ongoing NHS notes, or should we ever require the local authority disability team, it’s all there as a mark against our name, casting shadows on our parenting and our family as a whole. This is something that will NEVER go away, and has given us such bad experiences that we are afraid to ever go to the Local Authority teams for any disability support in the future, as it was asking for this support that got me accused of FII in the first place.

Examples of recent media coverage: 

Melanie Sykes was recently in the press regarding her 11 year old Autistic Son not being able to obtain a suitable mainstream education placement. This is extremely common in the ASD community, more so if the child is PDA and undiagnosed. Yet, no one else’s story makes the press…but a ‘celebrity’ story makes the news. Gaining the appropriate educational support cannot even begin for ordinary families until a correct diagnosis is obtained. Melanie Sykes’s story is commonplace and uninteresting and yet still grabs media attention.

The Baker Small Law Firm story has been grabbing the attention of Bloggers and Social Media since the weekend, Yesterday the Guardian picked up on it. This is a terrible way for a company who represent the Local Authorities to behave. Families are after the best for their children, always. And it is this kind of ignorance and disrespect for families of Additional Needs children that is rampant amongst the Authorities. It is totally unacceptable. It has highlighted several issues and made the press, and yet again, this is not uncommon for it to be going on in the silence of offices, and via staff emails.

I was made aware yesterday of a Change petition taking place of a single mother of 4 who has been ‘electronically tagged’ because her ‘disabled son’ will not attend school. The information is limited, it is not clear whether the child has a diagnosis, or what the other surrounding factors are in this woman’s personal case. We do not know the full extent of this story but the ‘tag’ is taking precedence and the petition and gaining support. It is emotive and sensational. It seems unjust yes, but we do not know enough about it.

Then, outside of the Additional Needs world, there is Chelsea Football Club/Dr Carneiro’s case regarding her rejection of the settlement offer of £1.2 million. This kind of settlement in these kind of cases, makes BIG money, and generates huge media attention. Yet in all fairness, her predicament will have caused low-level stress in comparison to our own families’ situation and what we have lost as a result. We have lost, time, money and self-esteem in all this, and potentially could have lost both of our children, but who will compensate us for our heartbreak and hardship? No one will listen.

As it happens, myself and My Partner are an ordinary, low-income family who have been screwed over by the very teams we employ as a Nation to help us in our times need, be it medical or social. We mean very little to the media and I can’t even generate much interest on my own petition as our story isn’t sensational enough. We, like many other families who have been treated in this unfair and defamatory way are simply invisible to the outside world, whilst being swamped by reports and complaints and masses of evidence to take action against these Professions, we have our hands tied financially and emotionally.

A bit of background about our case: 

Early in 2015 I placed a complaint about the particular Consultant Paediatrician involved with my son as I felt he was not a competent judge of the situation, his manner was unprofessional and his approach awful. The complaint was articulate and factual and he decided to fob me off and at that point I chose concentrate on my sons’s care rather than fight this person via letter…when I was ignored again and my concerns were not addressed I reiterated my feelings surrounding his incompetence by email. In turn, he was no longer The Boy’s paediatrician, and as a result of the complaint against him and his personal opinions about parental “expectations” this very doctor suggested Child Protection. This is evidenced in the Chronology that the NHS submitted to the Social Services and is an input on the same entry! I thought from the very outset that Dr HA’s involvement in the Referral was suspect and I felt it was not good practice for him to have been involved in any safeguarding concerns as I had made a personal and professional complaint against him. Surely this would lead anyone to question the impartiality of the person and whether it was appropriate for him to make a diagnosis of FII. However, to find out by the evidence I have now obtained, that he in fact quite obviously stated Child Protection on the same day as he received my follow up email chasing the complaint reply, well…this smacks of discrimination based on my making a complaint. I am currently going

through the NHS NICE Guidelines for FII and it seems that they have not been NICE compliant with the actions taken, much like they weren’t with the diagnostic process for ASD.

I placed an Access to Personal Data Request with the NHS teams, and have now been given 52 pages of emails that were sent between the Team involved with The Boy’s assessment. The emails are unbelievable. This complaint I had originally placed was about the NHS lack of ability to identify The Boy’s ASD, their actions to take to Child Protection and Dr HA’s involvement with it, and here I am faced with a bulk load of hideous emails focussing on me, and not my son. My mental health, my profession as an artist and writer, a nursery nurse was scouring the internet on my work profile and website and chose to take it to safeguarding. I was not made aware of this Safeguarding issue at the time, only by my accessing emails have I been made aware of it. I have been informed that the NHS have a duty to inform parents of safeguarding issues as they arise, and the only circumstance that this isn’t adhered to is in a case of FII. However, they did not inform me of this intrusion in to my personal life until i ‘found’ it last month, yet it occurred in March 2015! The Nursery Nurse in question was disturbed by her interpretation of my art and written work. She had looked me up via Facebook as she found me “interesting”. She didn’t like what she found that makes me so “interesting”. Her interpretation of my professional persona led her to take safeguarding actions and this then led to many other conversations surrounding my mental health.

Her assessment of my son was secondary and it was her interpretation of my artwork that will have influenced her fellow team members as she shared her views by email on 4/3/15, and discussed with the Safeguarding Team also on 4/3/15 and unbeknownst to me before my arrival at a multi-team meeting on 15/4/15.

Her comments were:

“I have come across a couple of web sites that may shed a little light on the background of Bee (mom)” “…comments and photos are quite revealing as a possible insight to her state of mind” “It may indicate that Bee might need some psychological input.” 

I have approached the NHS Pals department about this and an investigation has identified errors. They have ‘apologised’ but still no one is being held accountable and there are no ramifications. I have been destroyed by reading these comments about me, but this is just one small section. Prior to this, the Child Development Team Members were sending the emails below. This is an extract of a selection of emails and comments that I have highlighted to the NHS for their comments, I am still waiting for a reply to these, as they again have been based on personal opinions and their outright opinion that The Boy DID NOT have ASD. Which of course, he does…please bear in mind that my son does in fact have the ASD which is fuelled by anxiety and myself and my partner were very well placed to support his needs as we recognised what they were to a tee. But the professionals were incapable of seeing it. Their opinions were subjective and personal about me, and My Partner and are often not based on fact at all. This to me, supports my case that they were discriminating against us on many levels and being highly disrespectful in their ill-informed and incorrect comments leading to dreadful accusations and a gut-wrenching read.

Email Evidence: 

Email 8/1/15 

Emma P OT to Dr HA Consultant Paediatrician.
(SHE refers to me, when we wanted our anxious son to access Camhs)

“She needs psychological support.”
“She finds it incredibly difficult to listen to parenting advice so i think Jo (clinical Psychologist) would be good for her.” 

Email 15/10/15 14:16
Sandra G to Emma P 

Comments such as “mom needs to ignore him a bit more” are unhelpful, unnecessary and not medical or insightful.

“I can’t see she’ll get the sort of house she wants” Why is this opinion being made or shared? It is not her job to comment on my finances or house requirements.

“I’m a bit paranoid about going through it with mom” Disgusting and unprofessional lack of respect for me and The Boy’s needs. She would have known I would challenge their opinions on what they see/and what was happening as typical of PDA.

* Email 15/10/15
Sandra G to Emma P
“Sorry Emma, i left you to do most of the talking. I feel absolutely drained after that.” This email must have been sent almost immediately upon Sandra’s arrival back at the office from our home visit. This is disrespectful and unprofessional. There is no need to be like this about a visit, And in writing too. If Sandra did feel “drained” as she states, then this is surely because of the colluding they were doing behind our backs, the conversations that had gone before, and her personal feelings on me as mother. This is an inappropriate comment, but one i am sure she did genuinely feel, as if i’d been sitting in a persons home, having said and thought all the things that have been evidenced in these emails, i too would feel drained by the effort to maintain any sense of decorum.

Email 15/10/15
Emma P to Sandra G

The content of this email highlights the way the professionals were trying to talk me down, and ‘get through to me’. The meeting at our home had not long finished and I was not thinking it was successful as they state inn the email, I once again felt let down as i was only discussing Mobility because we essentially held a chance of getting it for The Boy. For a start, Emma P, seems to not understand the DLA system. When a child who gets DLA turns 3 years old, they are automatically sent paperwork to fill in for mobility element. And in what i was reading based on the DWP criteria, The Boy fitted it. Yet OT were not prepared to support it as she didn’t feel The Boy was hyper, sensory etc. Her comment “it doesn’t seem it’s the mobility claim per se they want, it’s just the additional money this would generate.” This is what the DLA mobility element is, it is money. It doesn’t come in any other form unless you qualify for Motability, which is just one small part of what the money goes towards. Again this highlight Emma doesn’t know what exactly she is talking about as Mobility is money. And of course, if a child is entitled to something to make their life easier, then that should be excepted and not an opinion from OT.

“Again today I found The Boy to be quite a typical little boy”. Just highlights the contradiction of information she shared with Dr Walter (investigating officer re the 1st complaint) recently for the Child Protection Review meeting report. And obviously, in light of the diagnosis, not a typical little boy, but one with sensory processing issues, and these she was not expert enough to recognise.

“I think the meeting will be interesting. I’m not sure what she will make of us not giving a diagnosis as she is so sure he has PDA.” Once again, this is all about me. And the fact that on 15th October, Emma was stating that they were not going to give a diagnosis, means that way before the CDT meeting on 4th November, without any appropriate Paediatric consultant involved, and no formal meeting having taken place, decisions were well and truly made, making comments like this. Never was it on their mind to forward The Boy’s case to an expert in PDA, as i was so sure he had, why was this not even considered? knowing that i would react badly to a non-diagnosis, you’d have thought the team would have gone out of their way to make the meeting/diagnosis water-tight.

* Email 13/11/15

13:20 Dr Mills to Dr HA

“these cases are always really tricky”
“A review by another doctor including the locum may be useful as ‘second opinions’ are useful.”


The Occupational Therapist and the Paediatrician stated “She has very strong distorted views around social class and will not allow The Boy in to the garden incase he hears the neighbours next door whom she feels are of a lesser social class than her.” 

She goes on to state that the Paediatrician and herself had “longstanding concerns about this mother and her distorted views around her child’s perceived difficulties” 

There is so much more, and I am happy to share all the documents with you. Bearing in mind that we do have a child with ASD, every decision I have ever made regarding our family has been based on genuine need and required support. Nothing that has been documented by professionals is accurate and can be disproven at every angle. There are other professionals and family members who can identify the outright lies within the documents and the way in which certain information has been distorted by the professionals in order to fit a case of FII. They still insist that they acted in the right way, but in light of everything I have read and all I have in front of me, they did not. In light of The Boy’s positive diagnosis, should they have behaved like this? In light of my own mental health condition, is this how they should have been talking about a mother? They were so preoccupied in proving their point they lost track of the real issue at hand and that was The Boy and his care, and IDENTIFYING HIS NEED was the only way they could eliminate a case of FII and they chose not to.

Moving Forward: 

We came off Child Protection Plan at the end of April 2016. This was at a suspended Children’s Social Services review meeting, postponed by almost two months. The Social Services did this so they could scrutinise the Private Assessment and they asked for the NHS opinion on this, the Social Services manager insisted that we shared the diagnostic reports with the previous team for their insight. Whilst I had a complaint in with the NHS at the time, and I contacted my MP also, the NHS decided that it was not their place to comment. Yet the Social Services were digging their heels in wanting an opposing opinion on the diagnosis. The Social Services view did not alter, they were insisting that they had contradicting information, even though as the NHS agreed their ‘diagnosis’ was NOT NICE compliant, and our Private Assessment WAS NICE Compliant. The Social Services Manager, who took a particular strong stance against anything we said, was jaded in her role and not open to being in the wrong, was still looking for an edge right up until the very last day.

The Social Services final report that relieves us of the Child Protection order, states “at this time there is insufficient evidence to continue Child Protection”. This is their way of avoiding the fact that they were incorrect, that they had accused us of something false. They are simply stating that there isn’t enough evidence to continue! This is not the same as being taken off Child protection for never having done anything wrong.

This whole thing is still an open case as far as I am concerned. Until someone removes all record of this awful incident, and we get back the time we lost as a family, until the NHS and Social Services apologise to us and take serious action against the staff for their incompetence, defamation and the hurt that their accusations caused, I will never be able to move on.

I hope that this all makes sense to someone on the outside, as I am so familiar with the information it all blurs in to one for me. This is why my family, like many others that endure our experience, needs the support to unpick and emphasise all the issues I bring up and hopefully you might be able to help us in doing so.

I have attached my two letters to the MP at the time of the case, it might be a briefer summary of what we were going through at the time, as well as some information about PDA that directly states the kind of support that these children and parents require. All of which was being thrown in our faces by the Social Services. I am even happy to disclose The Boy’s Private diagnostic reports and the NHS ‘reports’ from the time if they help you, help us. I really need to take action. I get parents emailing me on my personal/anonymous Blog and Facebook page, all of whom are in the same predicament and I know not what to say to them when they are facing Child Protection too, or court or even worse, I see tales of removals on support pages and it is simply getting out of hand.

Yours truly

Miss Bee



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